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I know I whine a lot about feeling lonely, but in addition to being a pastor's wife, I'm also the only one in my town of about 2000 people who homeschools young children. We have plenty of buddies to hang out with during the summer and on weekends, but how I long for another family to do projects with, meet at the park for lunch, take turns watching each others' kids. I used to have a friend whose youngest was in half day kindergarten, so we got to go swimming or play in the afternoons sometimes, but now he's a first grader, she's working part time, and the only other homeschooling family in our church has teenagers.

I've also been feeling like I'm missing out on a lot that goes on at the school. It would be so easy to get involved, make a name for myself there. Be the parent who helps with everything and is always there. I guess I must admit that I have a need to be accepted and liked and popular.

Homeschooling here does not lend itself to those things, things I know are not important, especially when I look at eternity.

Meh.

7 comments:

wow... our town only has 3000 people in it and I must admit I am looking forward to my son starting kindergarten this fall just so I can start to meet some other moms in the community. I am very lucky, the kindergarten teacher is a lovely lady from our church so that makes it even easier. My oldest son is 5, my second son is almost 4 and my daughter is almost 9 months. I totally understand feeling lonely as a pastor's wife. And yes, you're right, in the grand scheme of things it isn't a big deal but still... it's always nice to know you aren't the only one.

August 23, 2007 at 10:26 PM  

tara-we must be on at the same time-when our kids are in bed!

post and let us all know how the first day of kindergarten goes!

August 23, 2007 at 10:34 PM  

Hi there! Oh, I feel your loneliness in homeschooling. When I lived in Texas, I was surrounded by homeschoolers and we had support groups and co-ops galore! Since moving to Maui, I have had to work hard to find the homeschoolers and once I found them, I was very sad to learn that they do not have co-ops where my kids can take classes. : ( I know that we're doing what we're supposed to be doing, so I'll stick to it and pray for opportunities. I am beginning to wonder if God is just wanting us to be more "secluded" this year.

Peace to you and may the Lord bring some fellow home-educators to your neighborhood! : )

August 24, 2007 at 2:15 AM  

Julie,

Have you ever thought of starting a MOPS ministry in your church? I know it is a terrific way to meet other moms and our church has had a tremendous evangelistic ministry through MOPS. If you had just one or two Titus 2 moms who would be willing to work with you, I think you might really love this ministry.

Also, we didn't begin homeschooling until our oldest was in the 5th grade. Let me just tell you that, as time goes on, you won't feel like you are missing a thing except all those things you are glad you are missing. When we began, there wasn't a single other family in our county who homeschooled and church was a pretty lonely place because they thought we were crazy. Now we have families who have children just graduating from high school who have shared with us that we paved the way for them....maybe that will be your situation as well. {{{{{}}}} to you today.

August 24, 2007 at 8:28 AM  

Not a homeschooler, but I too know loneliness...as a stay at home mom, as one who actually wants to live her faith, as one who sees Jesus as Life and not just a helpful go-to when life gets hard...

Does it help to know you're not really alone? :-)

P.S. In reply to your comment on my site, I think CNN is re-airing all the "God's Warriors" episodes this weekend, so check it out. I only saw the portion I described, but other religions were also highlighted. FYI

August 24, 2007 at 9:53 AM  

some great ideas and encouragement you guys! thanks!

i'm hoping someday to start a MOPS group, but homeschooling makes it hard because technically, at least the one i was part of in KY, you couldn't have school age kids there at all.

August 28, 2007 at 7:51 AM  

Even being a homeschool mom in a large suburban area, with TONS of homeschooling families at our church, wtih all the busyness of life, we get lonely here sometimes too. We have to be intentional to call people, call again, etc. I do know how you feel though. :)
Amy R. : )

August 30, 2007 at 12:33 PM  

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